You may know what I’m referring to here, when I refer to ‘false starts’, but just in case, let’s define it.
Unless you’re exceptionally lucky, you’ve experienced one of the false starts first hand. You put your little one down for the night, they close their eyes, nod off, and then wake up again in about 20-30 minutes.
The reason it’s important to distinguish between this scenario and the regular ‘night time wake’ is because they’re caused by different things and therefore have different solutions.
A night time wake up is similar, obviously, but occurs after baby’s been asleep for at least an hour or so.
Night wake ups are usually the result of either hunger or a baby’s inability to string their sleep cycles together. If your baby’s over six months of age and had a full feed before bed, then hunger likely isn’t the culprit. If they’re unable to string their sleep cycles together, well, that’s another conversation altogether, and a great reason to hire a peadiatric sleep coach. *Wink wink*
False starts are a different animal and can often be solved fairly easily.
The first step, as with any problem, is to identify the cause, and when it comes to false starts, here are the three usual suspects.
If your baby’s uncomfortable, there’s a good chance they won’t sleep well, as is the case with anybody of any age. Teething, gas, reflux, or even just being too warm or too cool can all cause baby to wake up quickly after they first manage to settle. You can likely find remedies, temporary or permanent, to the first three (visiting a GP is a good start if reflux is present).
As for the temperature, past the newborn age, babies sleep a lot better when they are cooler. When you move a baby into a sleeping bag, lose the blankets. Have the cot completely bare. Just babe in their sleeping bag. A singlet, onesie, with a medium thickness sleeping bag (2-2.5 tog) suits a room temperature 18-19 degrees, which is a perfect temperature for comfortable sleep. Move your little one into a lighter sleeping bag for the warmer months.
2. Sleep pressure
There are two things that help us fall asleep. One is our circadian rhythm, which signals our brain to start producing melatonin when it gets dark, the other is homeostatic sleep drive. This is the body’s natural urge to sleep as we spend time awake, exert ourselves physically, heal from sickness or injury, or experience exciting or stressful situations.
Given how quickly they’re developing, babies’ homeostatic sleep drive builds up much quicker than it does in the average adult. A big part of the reason they need so much daytime sleep. As they get older, that pressure accumulation starts to slow down and requires more time awake between naps to build up to the point where they can fall asleep, and stay asleep, at bedtime.
If your baby takes a long time to fall asleep when you first put them down for the night, and seems active and happy during that time, low sleep pressure could likely be the cause. It may be time to either drop a nap or increase awake time to allow that pressure to build up appropriately before bed.
This is where things can get a little challenging, because contrary to popular belief, overtiredness doesn’t look like a more intense version of regular tiredness. Overtiredness causes cortisol secretion at the time when we want it the least, and actually causes baby to get quite energetic, making it difficult for them to get to sleep. In this case, you might want to move bedtime forward by 20-30 minutes.
As you might already have noticed, we’re now dealing with the same symptoms that we were in the earlier scenario, except instead of baby not getting enough awake time before bed, they’ve actually had too much. Two completely opposite causes resulting in very similar symptoms, but requiring opposite solutions, which makes it difficult to know which course of action to take to remedy the situation.
So, how do you know which scenario you’re dealing with and implement the right fix?
Overtiredness is a vicious cycle once it takes hold. Baby doesn’t sleep well which results in short, fitful naps the next day, which leads to bad sleep at night, and on and on it goes. It’s much safer to move bedtime earlier and see if that solves the problem.
Hopefully one of these solutions takes care of your little one’s false starts, but if the problem persists, it might be time to consider some one-on-one help from a pediatric sleep coach, and it just so happens, I know of a great one!